10 Things You Dont Do On The First Date

Posted on 01. Dec, 2009 by admin in Life and Style, Men & Women

The Pbleepd kids gather round to hear the lecturer speak: Lesson 1 - First Date: Modern experience suggests that now the first date is actually more focused on not making a mistake rather than giving a good impression. Impressions are overrated, the fact that you’ve both agreed to a date should be impressive enough…well at least the first time around. So what should you do to avoid mistakes?

“I’ll just have a Salad” - No Women! No! Unless you’re a vegetarian or you’re allergic to other food on the menu dont try and shy away from the food you want, just to impress the dude.

Restaurant etiquette doesn’t need to be justified by a lettuce and one piece of corn. Eat! Show your real self so there’s no surprises later on in your relationship when he sees you with a piece of chicken hanging from your bottom lip and your mouth is all oily. He wants to spend on you so make him feel happy to do so; if you wasn’t hungry why go to the restaurant in the first place?

Don’t Be On The Phone 24/7 - Now if it was up to me I’d have the phone off at all times so that as a couple we can focus on each other. However emergencies tend to occur at the strangest of times, plus it might be your get out clause from a bad date. Other than that ignore calls or keep them short, it’s supposed to be about you two and you two only. Too many times I’ve heard about dates failing due to phone use…its them damn Blackberry’s!!

Don’t Expect The Girl To Pay - Unless it’s been arranged prior to the date fellas please be aware that it is you who is paying. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you all this but some of you go on dates expecting the girl to pay her half; in an ideal world that would be wonderful (even more ideal is her paying for both of you) but all those “independent women” type tracks are “miraculously” forgotten when the date arrives. Use a 2-for-1 if you ain’t ballin’ haha (just make sure she doesn’t see it).

Don’t Lie To Impress - If you feel you need to lie, especially from day one then your relationship is essentially doomed. They can range from big lies to small insignificant lies but they are all lies and should be avoided. Ladies and Gentleman please don’t make stupid lies as well. A large percent of the time “Im an entrepreneur” means he is a criminal  and sometimes “I’m a model” means she has taken studio pictures like twice before.

Don’t Overdress/Underdress - This essentially is the first mistake not to be made as it sets you off for the day/night. Think about the venue and adapt your chosen clothing to it. Probably smart enough to realise that a three-piece suit or tracksuit is a no-no! Unless you’re going to a ball or paint balling what the hell have you got them on for? The smart casual look never goes wrong (except if you wear trainers with formal trousers…thats just stupid…tutt tutt Russell Simmons).

Don’t get too speechless - Nerves are cute and all but you knew what you were getting into;  I know the other person is looking appetizing but use your mouth mate. Its really not a good look to have awkward silences and no conversation, things will only get worse. Ask subtle questions, crack a few jokes, be their friend (for now).

Don’t Cry - Hey! Hey! Hey! Men Toughen Up! The 21st century has spawned alot of feminine men….yeah the movie’s a tear-jearker but if you see the dog get shot just firm it!

Don’t Talk About The Ex! - This goes without saying really but time after time the subject arrives in your mind. Avoid it for now (preferably forever) because paranoia is one hell of a feeling. You don’t wanna hear about what each other used to do or you’ll start thinking about comparisons, and if you lose….well you lose

Don’t go through the doors first - I had to add this one in because recently at the cinema I saw the man open the door and go in himself before the lady on two occasions. What happened to it being the “Year of the Gentleman”? What happened to manners in general? jeeze!

Don’t Have Sex - Debatable…haha kidding…kinda. Try and avoid this because it only adds complications especially if you want to continue seeing each other and see a future together. The longer you hold out, the better it is…usually. Just wait