Ask Roujin: Head vs Heart?
Posted on 31. Aug, 2009 by Roujin in Ask Roujin, Life and Style
“I’ve been on that cliched journey again where Im fighting battles between my head and my heart. There’s two guys who I care about more than anything but making a decision has always been tough for me. Even if Im persuing one I often think about the other and it’s a constant battle. Do I go with someone who makes me happy or be with someone who understands me? They’re both genuine amazing guys but something’s gotta give” - Miss Anonymous
ROUJIN SAYS
As you said yourself somethings gotta give… Before making any decision you need to look at your life and decide what it is you want from a relationship at this stage of your life: someone to have fun with? A committed relationship? Someone to settle down with? Then look at the situation from a “birds eye” point of view… Try to imagine you are not you and see what advice you would give to your friend if they were in that situation!
Sometimes it is hard to make the right decision when you are emotionally involved- emotions blind us unfortunately at times… Look at each person in detail, their background, their lifestyle, interests and their goals in life and in a relationship… And see which one is most compatible with what you want in a relationship now. For example if you want someone to just have fun with, you are not going to get along with someone who enjoys staying at home reading books (Depending on what you classify as fun of course)…
On the other hand if you are ready to settle down you would be most compatible with the one who wants the same… someone whos at a similar stage in life… Perhaps not a student or someone who likes to go out and get drunk every night… An alternative… The right person should make you happy and understand you… Regardless of how genuine they are, the right decision may be to leave both and find someone that does both.
Take Care xxx
Need a neutral’s advice? email Roujin at Pbleepd@hotmail.co.uk
