Is It Worth Fighting For?

Posted on 25. Sep, 2009 by Jodie in Inspiration, Life and Style

WHEN DO YOU FIGHT?

There are numerous occasions in our lives, which we have to fight for what we truly want. For example, those mandatory exams to produce the best grades, equals late nights at the library and the desk resembling a tuck shop with wrappers of your favourite crisps and empty bottles of red bulls, relentless, the list goes on…

Academia is probably the most accurate example to use in this scenario, where if you put in the required work; it is conveyed through the results. However, this is not about hitting the books but fighting a lost cause or a battle not within your grasp for personal victory. We also fight for personal reasons such as family and one of the most common, relationships.

To many that know me, it is apparent that I am fighter through and through, especially when it comes to getting things done my way. I am a control freak and a perfectionist, genetics I inherited from my mother. In recent years, it suddenly dawned on me that I fight more than the average person might and that I am probably living life through illusionary eyes.

If I see something that I like, I work hard to obtain it sometimes it is easier than others are. For example, Kurt Geiger shoes are to die for, yes, DIE FOR (not literally of course).I am willing to slave away for a few extra shifts to get hold of those BEAUTIES! The same goes for spending a few extra pounds for a filofax instead of a standard diary, sorry but it looks better and lasts much longer.

Now let us get down to the nitty gritty…

Why do you fight?

Is it because you invested so much time and effort in getting to know that person and the comfort will be lost along with the years that can never be replaced. Most importantly, are you afraid of being alone? It is fair to disclose that certain individuals put up a good fight due to personal insecurities and self-esteem issues. However, there should be a memorandum pointing out the clause that if one is not secured as a person, they are not going to find that elsewhere.

Fighting for a relationship is a different ball game to turn that B into an A. Another reason is the sorry excuses that are made as a pretext for their behaviour. “I understand him in more ways than you can imagine,” “She is a different person now” We tell ourselves these things to justify certain behaviour and tendencies, I have used it a few times…lol.

Is it worth the fight?

You might think that it is worth the fight because time spent can never ever be recaptured. The countless excuses use to defend their uncouth behaviour are running dry? This is a pickle of a situation especially if you find that certain adjustments are necessary to maintain the upkeep of the ‘relationship’. These certain adjustments briefly are PERSONAL VALUE AND SELF WORTH! That is the bigger picture with the smaller picture compromising of self-respect, self-esteem, confidence making it possible to discern your personal value.

Whenever friends ask for advice, I tend to steer clear with my favourite evasive statement, “If you want something and you think it is worth fighting fight hard for it, but if it is a lost war, leave it alone!” There are some things in life, which are not black and white, unfortunately relationships fall into that category, thus the ‘complicated’ option on facebook…lol.

Instead of making excuses for yourself and others, learn to love YOU and most importantly develop an understanding of your perceptions what you desire out of life. With these stable conditions, YOU will find that as time goes on YOU love YOU so much. YOU could not possible put YOU in a position of pain and hurt to make YOU second-guess all that hard work, YOU invested in YOU…I think it is a fair analysis to conclude that unless something is attainable without the arbitrary objections…I will carry on fighting for those KG’s…lol.