Love Is…
Posted on 20. Oct, 2009 by Darkman in Life and Style, Men & Women
Love takes an interest in a partner’s life; by taking an interest you get to find out so much.
So many people in society walk around with masks; they appear bubbly, confident, ambitious and impervious but scratch the surface and you find the real person.
You find people with self-esteem issues who use clothes as an outward front hoping to blend into the crowd so as not to draw attention to their person. You find beautiful people who don’t feel beautiful and want to have surgery. You even find people who appear mean or moody but use it as a defence mechanism to keep people away as they have been hurt before. These are just some examples of everyday problems which people face but you never find out unless you take an interest.
Love listen’s to the cry of the heart and intercedes.
So many people have had that good girl but it never worked and the reason is because she has so many issues. These issues, which had to be dealt 
with and healed before she could give you everything. She had to find herself but you did not know that, all you saw was a girl acting up and you left. So many people cry out internally for that person to help them yet no one hears them because no one is listening.
Love is sympathy.
“Sympathy is not giving advice or offering quick, cosmetic help; sympathy is entering in and sharing the pain of others”…. Sympathy says, I understand what you’re going through, and what you feel is neither strange nor crazy. Sympathy meets two fundamental human needs:
- the need to be understood
- the need to have your feelings validated.
Every time you understand and affirm someone’s feelings, you build fellowship. The problem is that we’re often in such a hurry to fix things that we don’t have time to sympathize with people, or we’re preoccupied with our own hurt. Self-pity dries up sympathy for others. It is in the times of deep crisis, grief and doubt that we need each other the most. When circumstances crush us to the point that our faith falters, that’s when we need believing friends/partners the most.
LOVE is about respect.
Respect is all about treating each other as equals and valuing the other person’s opinion. Rather than dominate the relationship, you allow your partner to have a say. Respect is also about compromise; relationships work on give & take. Sometimes you have to let the other party win an argument even though you are right. It’s about becoming less stubborn, more understanding and patient with each other. Love is about limiting arguments and resolving them rather than letting thing’s linger. Having a rule in a relationship like “never let arguments roll over to the next day” is healthy as it forces you to deal. The longer a hurt manifests itself the more lethal it gets.
Love is about the truth.
That means being open and honest with each other about everything. If you don’t like her cooking, say so rather than pretend to eat it, throw up and be wasting money buying McDonalds on your way home. Love is about being honest when your partner offends you; if you hold it in it will only happen again and again therefore it is better to nip it in the bud and let the other person know. Truth and communication go together as if you know how to speak to each other then fear of a conversation turning into an argument is minimal
Love is…
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Some good points…
Although there are some good points, I’m not sure I agree with the “love is sympathy” part… As a strong-minded woman, the last thing I would want in a man is for him to continuously agree with everything I say and to baby me…. Drop. Me. Out. Empathy- yes. Sympathy- no. There’s a big difference.
I also think love is about protection. When you love someone, you want to protect them, you don’t want to hurt them or see them get hurt. So all these girls / guys out there who continuously cheat but yet they still claim to “love” their other halves, are just lying to themselves and their partners.