The Tiger Woods Blueprint: The Pros and Cons of Pre-Nuptial Agreement
Posted on 11. Jan, 2010 by Broadband in Life and Style, Men & Women
Don’t you just love a firestarter? One mention of the contractual agreement and opinions are full speed ahead. This junction of a relationship has been widely debated and discussed over a long period of time and every now and again fuel is added to the fire with impending and established divorces ranging from close friends to multi-million celeb couples such as Paul Mcartney & Heather Mills to Nas & Kelis.
This time it’s the turn of Tiger Woods and wife Erin to land in the spotlight; the only difference here is that Erin is NOT necessarily entitled to up to half of Tiger’s money seeing as she signed a pre-nuptial agreement prior to their marriage. Queue this article.
In a heated but edutaining (Im keeping this word) conversation with a group of friends I threw in the topic of Pre-Nuptial agreement. What I got was timeless quotations from a passionate group of young men and women with a high-level of informative opinion (and hot-headedness) well beyond expectancies.
“Tiger Woods plans to re-write pre-nuptial agreement which entitles Erin to money in an attempt to make her stay”
FOR QUOTES (BLUE) AGAINST QUOTES (RED) – What are the pros and cons?
“when you buy a car you never think you’re going to crash but insurance is still a necessity, pre-nup is a form of insurance” - Henry
You see each other, you’re attracted physically, you speak to each other, you’re attracted mentally, you have sex (unless saved until after marriage of course), you’re attracted spiritually, and after a considerable amount of time your love grows to the point where the question is popped. You get married and you live happily ever after…..and then you woke up
Warranted that happens for many people but so many circumstances and events occur in between such milestones that the idea of this ideal journey has unfortunately been stifled by just as many failed relationships. Divorces are an unnecessary growing trend and with such an unsure generation it’s easy for couples to break up due to a variety of reasons from misconceptions of love to poor judge of character.
It is for these reasons that many men and women introduce pre-nuptial agreement into their relationship or as Chris Rock put it bluntly an “in case shit happens” clause. As the quote says neither the male or female proposing the agreement wants to divorce but there’s no harm in saving for a rainy day….Its Security.
“Pre-Nup is the condom of marriage, you enter as you leave..protected” - G.Anaman
Marriage is about going all out or nothing, if you doubt for one second they are in it for something else you really shouldn’t get married - Roujin
As much as the idea of pre-nups are appealing to insurance and security, it does align itself with a sense of selfishness and negative thinking. Yes Pre-Nuptial agreement is security, but for whom?….just one person
In a communion where themes are centred around sharing, the proposer of the pre-nup has already established their independence and “me” mentality. Love aside they are marrying their partner with their own assets in mind. Should love and the belief of “forever and ever” not be strong enough to banish the thought of divorce?
I’m not saying that the proposer thinks their partner is a gold-digger, but signs do show. Giving off the idea of lack of trust it suggests they are marrying because it is a stage in life and not because they actually want to.
“You Should Enter a marriage where divorce is not an option” - Cameron
“Pre-nup has to be there, ive learnt from sheg relationships. Millionaires giving their wives half when if they never met she probably wouldnt have made 1 mil” - G.Anaman
We have to take life experience and observations into consideration; it’s never good to generalise however if there is a common theme with certain scenarios then it should be understandable for a certain belief to occur as a result of that common theme.
In regards to today’s marriages and relationships; with so many seperations and divorces taking place especially between couples who you may think could never separate, it’s easy to have the impression that yours has a possibility (however slender) of the same conclusion.
Paying attention to mistakes made from other relationships may guide many towards pre-nup. They’d rather take that risk than divorce and have the partner take their money, kids and only leave you with a pot of noodles which are likely to be cold as she took the microwave too.
“You can fall out of love easily as you can fall in, people are fallable creatures” - Ashley Marc
“Pre-nup means that from the start, the partner has a pessimistic view and doesn’t believe the marriage will last, they have been constructed by the modern media” - Andrew Smiles
Where do we get our statistics from? The Media…Outside of local conversation Where do we hear about divorce the most? The Media. It is of course the Media wave that triggered The Tiger Woods Blueprint in the first place.
Media as we know are quick to report on new marriages but new lease of life is put into media when divorce is in action, which is understandable. Controversy attracts attention. When reports of payouts in divorces hit blogs, print media and broadcast television it sends a wave of pessimistic thoughts to many minds. Does anybody want to be in Mel Gibson’s position right now? I doubt it
It doesn’t continue to stop as more and more failed marriages in media world take centre stage. More recently Khloe Kardashian already reportedly set to divorce Lamar Odom after a few months of marriage with a Pre-Nup already agreed prior to marriage. More Pessimistic thoughts
Its these thoughts that have made society formulate marriages as contracts rather than a union and has made many think twice about going into one without “security”
“If you’re entering marriage surrounded with negativity, you might aswell not get married” - Stephi
During the conversation I decided to flip the script and see what they thought about divorce payouts.It wasn’t a surprise that those who opposed pre-nups demanded money whilst those who were for pre-nup opted against payouts
“you divorce me, you divorce my lifestyle and my assets. How can it be a win win for you?” – G.Anaman
Seperation suggests separate lives yet the partner who earns considerably less is entitled to the other’s money. Hmm, is that not sharing? Yes they aren’t sharing with each other but it does have that ironic “what’s mine is yours” air about it.
Once divorce papers are signed it means the partner has chosen to leave them completely, money shouldn’t be included considering it didn’t represent the sanctity of the marriage. As many would say “you cant put a price on what your partner gives you in marriage”….then why are you asking for money?
With 10% of someone’s money supposedly being given to church surely the partner shouldn’t expect more than god does…surely. Truth be told it would be devastating to see money given away on bad terms ESPECIALLY when you know it could end up being spent on your ex’s next conquest
“Sometimes by being a wife psychologically and emotionally the women has supported you in getting those assets but this is not empirically quantifiable” – AndrewSmiles
“Your pocket and bank are what you seem to care about most (if you’re for pre-nup) so as you broke her heart, she will break your bank” - Roujin
It may not justify the divorce but it will surely compensate for it. Marriage is a two way street and regardless of a someone’s position (making less money) they have reason to be entitled to their partner’s assets.
If they have contributed to their success then there should be no qualms. I’m not just talking about financial success but the success in building a family, happiness and health. In a world built on assets and goods, money is the next best thing to spiritual enlightenment and freedom.
Can you imagine any of your fathers divorcing your mothers, leaving them penniless? Not to say that she wouldn’t have her own but for argument’s sake. Yes she (or he) wasn’t doing their partner’s job but support is more than just a pat on the back.
Behind every strong man is a…..
“He should give the amount you would have made as supposed to half his assets” - Andrew
The argument could continue for weeks on end but what seemed to be the common denominator at the end of it all was children. Both sides agreed that both partners would contribute as much money as they could to their child’s well being after divorce even if the pre-nup lovers mentioned monitored accounts.
Who’s side are you on?
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Very good article and both sides raise convincing points. Unfortunately marriage is no longer looked at as a commitment for life with people swapping partners like their careers. The history of the relationship and the career path of myself and my partner will play a huge part in any consideration as to whether I would opt for a pre nup.
Great article! Again there’s plausible reasons both for and against pre-nup. Personally as I’m not out for any guys money I wouldn’t mind signing a pre-nup in theory, however if I was presented with one I’d definitely be offended. I’d have to think twice about whether I wanted to marry a guy that already had divorce in mind, marriage is not a business venture that you analyse and make sure you cover yourself for all eventualities, it’s quite sad that marriage has become such a sham in this modern era. People need to think seriously about why they are entering into marriage in the first place then divorce would be less likely and the issue of pre-nup would be irrelevant.
I thought long and hard on this one! The Pros’ and the Cons’, the influential stuff, the stories in the media. I still think i would be highly offended, if the one Mr who proposed to me, also proposed a Prenuptial agreement.
I guess not agreeing to sign one, would sort of filter me in the ‘I want Half’ group. That’s not it! I just can’t subjectively agree to such a thing, it would instantly nullify my relationship.
Although, when Men marry stupidly, i can see why they would want such an agreement in place.