Why Did I Ever Like You?!

Posted on 11. Apr, 2010 by E.Carmel in Life and Style, Men & Women

During my 23 years in a world of my own, I have found that one of the hardest hurdles to jump over is the ‘getting over him/her’ hurdle, that hurdle is fricking high!

Then you have people in your ear telling you that you’ll find someone better so you should ‘just’ move on…yeah I blaaady would if it was that easy!

You know when they say that some things are better said than done? well getting over someone is definitely one of those things. You  remember all the other guys/girls you’ve ever liked or dated, then in dismay you think to yourself, ‘what the hell was I thinking!’ Well before you can get to that point in your life when you can say ‘F U!’ you need to first jump over that hurdle.

I gave one friend some advice on how to let an ex go and guess what?! needless to say she is failing miserably! I don’t understand why because I found it did wonders for me. Who knows; maybe these tips will work for you if you happen to be that person who made an attempt to jump over the hurdle and…erm…fell over.

1. Compile a list. It could just be a mental list of all the reasons why this person is not good for you. You can start your list off by touching the major things i.e. he wears pink boxers with love hearts on them or he’s hairline is too far back Once all the bad things about this person outweighs the good, it will kick start your will power to move on.

*Sidebar: It might also be a good idea to have this song on heavy rotation to get your bitter juice flowing!

2. Did you both consider yourselves as best friends? Well, this person is going to have to adjust to being best friends with your answer phone from now on! Don’t answer their calls! Ok, ok, that is a little bit childish *slaps wrist* what you should do is answer but you don’t have to entertain the call, say something like you’re busy so can’t talk right now (hoping he/she doesn’t call back).

It is imperative that you keep conversations short and sweet  especially if the last time you spoke to them was…the night before! How on earth did my friend expect to get over her ex-bf if they spent every night on the phone? it was never going to happen! The less you speak to each other, the more distant from them you’ll feel.

3. Following on from that point…DON’T STALK THEM ON FACEBOOK!!! No, no, NO! You can be extreme by completely deleting them as a friend or just adjust your account settings to not receive news feed about them. The last thing you want to see is them tagged in a photo having fun without you! This is not restricted to just Facebook; even something as simple as asking friends about them don’t do it.

4. Go out and socialise a tad bit more. Having a laugh with friends is always a good way to keep you smiling and feeling positive. Mingling and meeting new people is fun too, who knows, you could even meet someone new (wink-wink, nudge-nudge!). The more you meet new people, the more you do realise that there reallyare more fish in the sea. But DON’T use anyone as a rebound; that ish is not cool!

5. Try to avoid seeing them as much as possible. This can be extremely difficult if you share a handful of mutual friends but it can be done. Whatever you do, don’t arrange to meet up with them…why would you do that?! Yes, best believe my friend would meet up with her ex after work everyday! *shakes head*

6. Get a hobby. Keep yourself busy to minimise the amount of time spent thinking about him/her. Getting involved in something new is always great because it will be something you get to experience without them.

7. Just be upfront. Be honest and straightforward by letting the person know that you want to move on. Ask them to understand by giving you the space you need in order to move on properly. One thing I’ve noticed about these situations is that most times the person you’re trying to get over doesn’t want you to! They love the attention so much that they deliberately do things that will keep you hanging on. In cases like this, it may mean that you have to result in telling the person that you don’t want anything to do with them anymore until you are fully over them. Harsh? Oh well, such is life!

So there you have it, my seven handy tips on how to cry a river, build a bridge and get over it; and trust me, it will work! But don’t expect it to happen over night because it won’t. I know this will sound cliché but time really is the best solution for this situation and one day you WILL look back and say ‘I can’t believe I ever liked you!’

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