Why Do They Want You When You’re Taken?

Posted on 19. Feb, 2010 by Broadband in Life and Style, Men & Women

Girls Says: So…
Guy Says: So…
Girl Says: Since when were you in a relationship?…
Guy Laughs: Wow you’ve got something to say too!?!
Girl Says: Well yeah I saw your relationship status, interesting
Guy Says: Yeah thought I might as well make it official
Girl Says: Damn, why are all the good guys always taken?
Guy Says: Because some of you girls take too long to figure out who’s best
Girl Says: Maybe, just make sure she treats you right, or I might have to take her place
Guy Says: Ha! Thanks
Girl Says: Im being serious… If you wasn’t taken the things me and you would do…wow
Guy Laughs
In His Mind: And you’re telling me this NOW as supposed to a few weeks ago?!?!

Whyyyyyy!?! What is it about men or women in relationships that attract a collage of admiration and sudden affection confessionary from single friends, associates and/or newcomers? The statistics may be varied but the fact remains that once me becomes we, there’s a sudden flock of he’s or she’s ready to pounce…it’s an interesting coincidence.

Where did they suddenly come from? When did they start noticing your features? Why are they NOW laughing at your jokes and adding more o’s to their lol’s? Such are the different mindsets of the world there isn’t one sole explanation for why this happens; there are however many reasons as to what it is that makes them suddenly feel the need to disturb your relationship. So…

Why Do They Want You When You’re Taken?

Cliched Reason – People Want What They Can’t Have

It is written in folk law (no it isn’t) that anything that seems beyond one’s grasp makes it that much more attractive and desirable. This relates to a man, woman, material goods, job…whatever! When someone is in a relationship their perceived personality and looks value increases and more attention is paid towards them. It only takes a change of title therefore for a man or woman to become wanted up front as supposed to liked from afar. We love the chase, the games and the psychology behind this theory so much that it almost becomes an ego booster. Having someone who’s in a relationship all of a sudden fall for you will make you feel like you are the sh**.

Modern Reason – Taken People Have A Certain Glow & Aura About Them

The funny thing about being in a relationship is that you don’t even have to tell randomers that you’re taken, sometimes it’s written all over your…aura. Not to say that single people aren’t happy and positive but those who are taken have a certain confidence about them that make onlookers who are admirers a hindrance or bonus to their “chi” rather than a catalyst of it. As a taken person you seem to have the most confidence in a room as you are more comfortable and natural and worry or stress less. This in turn breeds attraction or adds up to the “incredible romantic gravity that pulls the opposite sex to your orbit” – Ask Men. Even conversation via text or messenger services seem to highlight the glow (obvious status updates aside) there is just something that shows….

General Reason – Taken People Are No Longer Stereotypical Perverts…in theory

Women are naturally (or unnaturally) perved over on a daily basis. Rain, Shine, Fog or Snow it’s very unlikely that a woman can’t go anywhere without a random dude trying to holla at her. Yet when she comes across a man or knows a man who’s in a relationship there is a safe zone as there is a likelihood that he won’t perve…stare maybe, but not perve or holla. He is now a gentleman. Once men are in a committed relationship, their behaviour undergoes purification and the selfish sexual intentions are removed. In turn, women lower their guard. Women can now discuss their romantic strategies, seek advice and flirt without repercussions but this has often ended up dangerous as the woman has gathered feelings.

Catch 22 Reason – Single People Want What Others Have

Like a child watching another child have ice cream, a single person wants what a taken person has. A taken person has already passed the hubby/wifey test by being in a steady relationship, they have been approved via their partner’s happiness. This creates a buzz for the single person as they want to chase that same happiness. It is here where things can become complicated as the single person has to understand whether they are chasing the taken person or the idea of happiness; even more important why are they willing to break up another relationship for it.

Generally speaking relationships align you in scenarios and places you may not have necessary been in if you were single. There are lifestyle changes…you going out more, you going out less, timing of certain actions are different and the use of applications applies around your relationship schedule…things change and move about whilst single people remain constant and consistently there.

As a taken person your simple reaction should be to commit to your relationship unless you have fallen for the trap, don’t cheat though!! As a single person you can’t help the way you feel but consider your reason for pursuing this particular taken person and think about their partner’s feelings.

Why Do They Want You When You’re Taken? ….Because you’re taken.

Sources

http://uk.askmen.com/top_10/dating_200/213_why-do-single-women-like-taken-men.html
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Wallin22.html

Pic Sources
http://powderroomtalk.typepad.com/.a/6a0105362dcc21970c0120a6eb46cd970b-320wi
http://images.smh.com.au/2009/04/07/463104/infidelity_lead_gallery__600x399-420x0.jpg

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