Women Bend, Men Break
Posted on 11. Nov, 2009 by Broadband in Life and Style, Men & Women
Earlier this year while I was listening to the hysterical Foxxhole Radio Show ( infamous for the Miley Cyrus diss) Jamie Foxx coined a phrase that sticks amongst all generations of our species. It is a complex analysis made simple by it’s abiding definition -”Women bend, Men break“.
You see, relationships as we know grow from strength to strength as long as there is a constant rotation of love, trust and commitment; the bond is created between a man and a woman based on these foundations. HOWEVER there comes a time numerous times when this relationship is tested and 8 times out of 10 that so called strength portrayed becomes curiously fragile.
It wouldnt be accurate to say every test has the same reaction but more often than not you find in circumstancial scenarios women bend while men break. Now when we say women bend we are refering to their reaction to a negative scenario/event that can affect their relationship….the woman is clearly affected (hence the bending) but rather than show outright anger she conceals it and saves the issue for a rainy day. When it comes to the man on the other hand he has less tolerance and his reaction is instant and somewhat volatile (hence the breaking) towards the situation. If you pay your attention to the scenarios below……
Who is that?
You see your partner talking to someone of the opposite sex, and they are friendlier than usual
Woman Bends: She’ll see her man talking to the other girl, she’s upset about it (the face expression says it all) but she wont react. Instead she’ll look on, collect her thoughts and save this moment for a future argument.
Man Breaks: He sees her talking to a guy and it’s an instant reaction, he’s angry. He makes sure his presence and concern is known by both the girl and the guy she’s talking to by wandering over to the conversation.
New Friends
Your partner has a new friend of the opposite sex that they speak to often
Woman Bends: She’ll wait (and hope) for her man to tell her who the new friend is. If he doesnt say, she’ll attempt secret snooping through his phone and facebook. If no harm is done she’ll leave it but if she finds something….
Man Breaks: He’ll complain ask about her new friend and demand request less time be spent speaking to him. When meeting the friend he attempts minimal conversation and delivers the “eyes” to let him know he dont like him. The new friend unsurprisingly rarely speaks to her ever again
Holiday in Ayia Napa?
Your partner’s going on a party holiday….in Napa
Woman Bends: Has her suspicions over and over again but quietly trusts her partner will behave himself (pssh..in Napa? haha)
Man Breaks: He knows and hears stories about Napa which sends him into a paranormal state, he trusts her not to misbehave but knowing some of the girls she’s going with he’s torn. He decided he’s not happy, he gets into an argument with his woman which either results in her misbehaving out there or forces him to JOIN her in Napa
You’re not getting any
Your partner isn;t in the mood for sex, simple
Woman Bends: She’s baffled at first, then shows mild anger but doesnt complain for too long, she collects her thoughts and uses this against him in future
Man Breaks: Its the end of the world, he’s fuming and doesnt know what to do with himself; fidgety and annoyed he says things out of his character which further prevents him from having sex that night; which results in more frustration
Miscellaneous Objects
You see something in the car that doesnt belong to you…and sure as hell dont belong to your partner….but whoever it belongs to is the same sex as you
Woman Bends: You observe it, analyse it, think and then Save it for a Rainy Day
Man Breaks: Everyday is a rainy day, instant phone call
What time do you call this?
Your partner comes home late….real late after a party. They look and smell different
Woman Bends: She doesnt say anything, she logs it into her memory
Man Breaks: If he hasnt called her already before she even hits the door, He doesnt stop asking questions, we suddenly have an episode of CSI Miami/Forensic Detectives in which the volume gets louder by the minute
The scenarios dont lie……the scenarios do not lie!
So I guess after that the next thing is to look at the even wider perspective and disect why. Why do women bend and men break? We can never be 100% sure but I put it down to control issues. Reading an essay once the writer interstingly suggested that there’s sometimes a gap between a man’s ability to reason and his ability to feel whereas women can connect reason with emotion whilst also knowing that reason can’t solve all emotional issues.
We all like to be in control of our life…men more or less take pride in being in control of their relationship and when they sense that their control has been comprimised they react aggressively because they aren’t used to not being in control; they havent gained the necessary knowledge of how to react.
Women on the other hand use logic and emotion to get what they want. They know that breaking hardly creates control so they wait, they bend…they are tactful. They wait until the man is at a vulnerable or weak position and then they unleash. All those bending expeditions are used as ammo and when this ammo is released it triggers alot of stupidity in a man in regards to his respone (ranging from stuttering to not well thought out lies)
Does that make women are stronger than men?….well thats another article in itself. What do you think?
Article is on point!!!! Every single one of those is true!!! I was getting ready to defend the male species before reading but it is too true!!! We as men always tebd to rush into situations head first whereas women are very much calculated and stack for a rainy day! Just out of curiousity what gender is the author?
Male…it was hard for him to write it too lol
I agree…men are not rational creatures at heart and its constant learning curve for them. Us ladies as u said are more ‘tactful’ lool
The article is really interesting and so true. I particularly like the holiday in Ayia Napa scenario.lol
This article shows men are more straight talking while woman are more devious
So true Darkman…mans weakness or strength lies in his ability to control the feeling in his pants, when possible gratification to this area is under threat he must jump into caveman mode n deal with the threat because man can’t survive droughts as long as woman…trust me but what man has to remember is that there is a 10 to 1 ratio in our favour and women are becoming more desperate to find a hubby dubby…may the force be with you and your lightsaber
Hysterical
The Great Author once wrote “women was made from a man’s rib.” I do not think a man breaks I think women just play their sub-servant role in the matters discussed above and it is more a matter of obedience and voicing ones opinion rather than being sly.
in my humble opinion…..
why would you got to napa when you’re in a relationship, it really isn’t by force! really like the article alot of truth
I cant say I read the whole document, but I will say that the reactions for the men in the scenarios are probably 100% true, but I can also guarentee that the reactions of women are more than likely going to be in tandem with those gentlemen. Now I aint saying I know a bunch of female ‘time bombs’, but a fair few whos would react exactly as the fella’s did/do. BTW, a certain editor can verify that they know these type of ladies I am referring to!!!
Could not have put it better myself. Great article
i dont think its healthy nor “rational” for a person to not deal with an issue as it happens but instead bring it up at an opportune moment such as in the heat of a row or to deflect criticisms of their own behaviour etc. far from rational and “tactful” i find it manipulative and as another poster commented, quite devious.